We are so excited about your journey. Whether you are considering marriage, recently married or been married for quite some time, we want your marriage to WIN! As a couple we have spent the last 10+ years of our 18 year marriage, empowering husbands and wives to WIN in their marriage. Why winning you may ask? Most couples at some point in their marriage will have to overcome some challenges in what we refer to as” The Great Divide” in marriage. That is a challenge in either Communication, Finances and /or Sex. A couple that is determined to WIN in their marriage, realizes that marriage is a marathon and not a sprint!. It will require endurance, strength and commitment!
While we can’t go over every single strategy in one article we wanted to provide you with 5 Simple Strategies that can help you on your pathway to winning in your marriage.
Point # 1 is Planning. Have you ever heard the adage that says those that fail to plan, plan to fail? Pre-Marital Counseling is a must! Just like getting a drivers license or even when I obtained my Pharmacist’s License, I needed to have an understanding of what was expected of me, and what kinds of challenges I may have to overcome or tests that I may encounter.
Point # 2 Prayer. It is essential that you find a scripture or several scriptures to stand on daily in your marriage. My favorite scripture to stand on is Jeremiah 29:11(NIV) For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. So when challenges come we don’t run in opposite directions . We recognize the challenge and we are equipped on how to overcome it together.
Point # 3 Partner .We whole heartedly encourage you to find a like minded individual outside of your immediate family that can hold you accountable in your marriage. Eric has intentionally connected with a few of the men in the men’s ministry at our home church to hold him accountable and to impart wisdom into him when there is a challenge that he is having. NOT YOUR MOTHER OR YOUR FATHER !! We discuss why in our book Marriage Can Win!
Point #4 Persevere. Marriage is an amazing journey. Some days we may not see eye to eye BUT we know that we were brought together for a reason. God’s desire for us is to experience success in every aspect of our lives. This will require us to persevere. That means DON”T GIVE UP and throw in the towel just because you hit a rough patch! Ask yourselves this question. What can I learn from this so that moving forward I am even more prepared to succeed in my marriage?
Point # 5 Prioritize. We know that life happens. We all have responsibilities be it our jobs, or businesses, or our children. However, remember that God comes first, then your spouse. It may require some creativity on your part, be it making Adjustments in your schedule, establishing effective boundaries with your in laws and friends and/ or children then recognizing The power of the word NO! Genesis 2:24 tells us that “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and Shall be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
While the two of you are planning your wedding which lasts for a day, don’t forget to plan your marriage to last a lifetime!!!
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Here’s to your success