Women’s Dating Guide

Men and women think, act and decide differently - about everything. As Dr. John Gray wrote, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. The differences between how men and women view the dating process are as far apart as the Moon is from the planet Earth.

 
 
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Reality Check

  • If you have dated several different men and every relationship seems to end after only a short time, it’s time for you to do a reality check. There are certain behaviors that turn men off in a hurry and you need to make certain that you aren’t doing any of them.  

  • Too bossy. If you are like a bulldozer, just flattening every obstacle that stands between you and what you want, a man will not want to deal with you. Men, like less drama, less of an emotional splurge and more stability. Manipulation. Constant arguing. Explosive interactions. Ain’t nobody got time for drama Have an open mind to change the cycle of failed relationships. Lets start a new with the basics

  • High-Maintenance/Materialism is another buzz killer. A Woman who is over-the-top with her needs to look a certain way and have certain things. All she wants are expensive gifts and a lavish life style. Men want a woman they can please with their will – not just their wallet. If this is you, Its time to change so you won’t be and old bitter woman all alone.


ABC’s of Healthy, Happy Relationships

  • For Healthy, Happy Relationships, here are some basic guidelines for reference. They are in alphabetical order only, not order of importance.

  • Acceptance – Don’t try to change someone. This is a must. If a person really wants to change, that person will need to be motivated and take action. Period. Also regarding acceptance, accept limitations. He is not Superman; you are not Wonder woman. No one is perfect; so do not expect perfection. Accept the little flaws that come with each person. You accept theirs; they accept yours. That’s life!

  • Bonding – Bonding with another person generally does take time. Communicate – talk, listen, share the good and the bad, ask questions, compliment instead of nag or insult. In short be a friend; make a friend. That is healthy. If this bonding is lacking, it may mean professional help is needed (like a counselor or therapist) or it may be time to move on to healthier relationships.

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Communication

  • Be open to the other person. Check judgmental attitudes at the door. And give chances. Be fair, flexible and friendly. If and when things get out of hand and it is your fault, apologize and ask forgiveness and move on. Similarly, be acceptable to apologies and grant forgiveness, too. Life is too short to stay focused on the negative too long. No need to deny it; face it, deal with it and move on past it to improve and strengthen your relationships.

  • Communication is Key. Effective communication is a skill that all couples need to develop. It is not an overnight process. Open communication affords each person the opportunity to talk freely and openly, about their most private thoughts which includes but is not limited to their hopes, dreams, fears, challenges and/ or aspirations. This is how you get to know more about the person.

  • We learn from our experiences and gradually figure out what we want in a potential boyfriend. At the same time, we want to mitigate the risk so that we avoid being devastated.  When two people begin dating there are four potential relationship outcomes: 

  1. Both parties want to be in a relationship with each other.

  2. Neither party wants to be in a relationship with the other.

  3. The girl wants a relationship and the guy does not.

  4. The guy wants a relationship and the girl does not

You want to clearly know what you want and what he wants to avoid emotional and time being invested. Learn more in “Women’s Guide to Dating” Coming Soon!